Coping

New Normal

These are unprecedented times. No one living has experienced such a pandemic in their adult lives. Restrictions depend upon where you live, but almost everyone is restricted in some way. Each country’s precautions are a little different and in the US it is up to each state to decide how much we must restrict our movements.

Regardless, we have all had to adjust to a new normal and there is nothing about it that feels, “Normal.” We must remember that physical distancing, masks, gloves and stay at home orders are designated to protect others as well as ourselves.

Coping

So-called social distancing is hard for me a hug loving, social being. I miss my friends. I miss my family. I miss going to the grocery and volunteering and driving and everything else that made up my daily life before COVID-19 dropped in on us.

  • I am trying to cope by taking one day at a time. This isolation is so open-ended at this point that it is depressing to think of the month or months stretching ahead. I try to have a goal (or two) for each day and when I achieve those I feel energized. The goals are too mundane to share, but of course, include such chores as reorganizing a closet.
  • This is also a wonderful opportunity to read. I have many books on my shelves that beg to be re-read and I have about fifty on my Kindle that I have not read. Reading is always informative and it swallows up a lot of free time.
  • This final coping mechanism should have been listed first because I think it is probably the most important. Here in Kentucky, I feel very fortunate that this pandemic has occurred in springtime. The sun shines bright almost every day and there are flowering trees and plants sprinkling color all around. Each day I go for a walk in the neighborhood and I am grateful that this virus did not visit in winter.
  • One last thought: Many people are making it possible for us to live during this trying time. Let’s remember those working in hospitals, grocery stores, law enforcement, and other essential capacities.

As our governor, Andy Beshear, reminds us each day, “We will get through this together.” 

How Are You coping?

 

“Think first of the action that is right to take, think later about coping with one’s fears.” Barbara Deming

5 Comments

  1. Your words have helped me to refocus. The idea to do things, like cleaning a closet or reading a book are very helpful. Yesterday was a difficult one because it was the very first day in my 7 decades on this earth that I was not able to spend time with family. Then, I realized they were experiencing it for the first time, too. That helped me to recognize that I am not unique, but one of millions who are dealing with this dreadful disease. As for our Governor, I call him Dandy Andy because of his kindness, his ability to see positives, his humanity. That is something to celebrate. Those he has with him on his daily updates are also uplifting. They perform a necessary service so that everyone can know what is going on, and to a person, they are human. They are my KIND of people, with an emphasis on the word kind. You are right about the beauty of Nature. Azaleas, Dogwoods, Pear trees are all there for us to behold, and in my particular situation, that is just by looking out my front or back door!
    I salute those who work, especially in the healthcare field, and the first responders. They do not question why they are there. They just answer the call, do whatever is needed, sometimes working around the clock. Then there are others who still show up, whether it is to stock shelves, direct traffic, or help make it easier for those who may need something. One job that should not be needed, but sadly is, is those who have to pick up gloves that far too many have thrown on the ground beside their vehicles as they leave the stores.
    Thanks for your posts.

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  2. It sounds like you have good motivation to get through the days until we are free again. I wonder if this will change us for the better or if we will get more selfish and mean if things get worse.

    I do miss springtime in KY and certainly won’t even get the tail end of it this year since I can not return on schedule. It is certainly “one day at a time” for us. And, yes, I am catching up on that stack of books I have. Take care and stay safe.

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    1. We will all definitely be changed, but I believe it will be for the better. I think we will be more appreciative of things we’d come to take for granted. You and Nancy stay safe and this too will pass.

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  3. Being in Tennessee we started our stay home a bit later, so we may have to endure longer. We have accomplished some projects but are thankful for two things; our daughter and son in law are still working and we have the privilege to homeschool our two grandsons; 8 and 5. Thank goodness they are not older or they’d leave us in the dust! We spend half a day learning (with the help of school resources) and half a day playing and exploring outside in the yard as much as possible. We hope to be making a difference in some small way as we move through this.

    None of us are on hold, we must continue to live our best lives possible during this time. As we know, we don’t get this time back so let’s make the best of it!

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