What I Know for Sure 2

“No winter lasts forever; no spring skips its turn.” Hal Borland

It has been over two weeks since we began discussing “What I Know for Sure.” To me, this absence of posts is no surprise. After all, there are so few things we know for sure, or perhaps I should say, that “I” know for sure. Your comments after that first installment of this subject were thought provoking and I look forward to you sharing more as we go forward.

Sometimes during the night, when revelations so often materialize, I think, “I must remember this for the blog,” but when morning arrives the thought has vanished. If I am so sure, why did that certainty evaporate with dawn? To me it is further verification we know so little for sure.  Or, perhaps it is that what we know isn’t of great consequence.

Listed below are the four (4) things which I declared, initially, I know for sure. Thank you for not asking me to explain #4! It is one which I feel strongly about and I wonder if you have things which you think too few people know for sure, but should be obvious.

  1. There are few things of which I am 100% sure, but one of those certainties is the fact that I love my family with all my heart.
  2. Having time alone is a necessity for me, but I sometimes forget how much I need to be with people.
  3. Native Americans should not be called Indians.
  4. Dish towels and dish cloths should be laundered separately and not with bath towels or underwear.

What I know for Sure Today

5. April is not delivering in March. That giraffe! Have you been watching? I have, since sometime toward the end of February, and somedays I feel so sorry for her and other days I am mad . . . at her, at the Animal Adventure Park, at her Baby Daddy, Oliver. It is irrational, I know. Nature cannot be rushed. It will happen when the time is right, etc., etc. Last week, on April 8, the park’s veterinarian said that was going to be the day, “April is showing signs of early labor.” NOT! Thousands watched the live cam in anticipation, but no baby. Poor April, gestation for giraffes is fifteen months and the offspring will weigh around 150 pounds. April has gone through this three (3) times before. She knows what she is doing. It’s the caregivers who apparently do not. 

6. Love at first sight is a real phenomenon. Not romantic love, I don’t know about that, but a Mother’s love for her newborn. No matter how red, skinny or fat. No matter how covered with toothpaste-looking vernix caseosa, bald or not, a Mom is going to experience pure love the moment she looks at her newborn’s face.

7. Depression should be renamed.  Depression is a word from the late Middle ages meaning to “press down”. It evokes a slump or perhaps an indentation, nothing too significant. The word may refer to the economy (recession), weather (tropical) or to geography (relative to the horizon). It also is a medical diagnosis and this is what should change in order to more adequately portray the condition. In the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM) of Mental Disorders there are several diagnostic codes listed for variations of this disorder. It is not my intent to delve into the nuances of this diagnosis which can be complex and even terminal, but to encourage thought and perhaps dialog.

Too often, this diagnosis is considered to be a temporary “down” feeling which will pass, but in fact it is more likely to be a permanent condition that varies in intensity. If you struggle to understand friends or family members who you know to be depressed, please read this short account by John Pavolvitz, one of my favorite bloggers. I had been following Pavolvitz’s posts for over a year without knowing he suffers from depression, until reading this one:  http://johnpavlovitz.com/2016/07/05/the-privilege-of-mental-health/

Photo Credit: Missy Cornish

As Borland’s quote at the beginning of this post, some things are a surety and they bring comfort. It is reassuring to know spring never misses its turn and no night lasts forever. As one of our readers has stated, “. . . . . the Sun always rises. Light transforms the darkness.” And, while this is true there are those who suffer from “clinical depression” who cannot know this for sure, everyday. No matter what we call depression, it is a diagnosis to be taken seriously, to be treated and to be better understood. That understanding brings light to sufferers.

Part 2 of 4

Theme photo by Akiko Kobayashi (Japan)


  1. I have thought long and hard about this topic and plan on posting my thoughts soon. I find mine fall into categories; nature, family, life events and such. More to follow soon. Thanks for the nudge.

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  2. You cannot know how many nights since your blog that I have awakened and your question came to mind. I even asked my friends the question with very little answers.

    I do know one thing for sure . My mother, brothers and sister have loved me unconditionally.

    The other thing I know for sure is that I have learned that I have the inner faith and strength to get through very difficult times.

    One other thing that comes to mind is that I know for sure there is more than one way to look t my situation.

    There are many things that, over the years, I thought I knew for sure but events revealed to me that I didn’t.

    I will continue, probably for the rest of my life–thanks? To you– ponder this question.

    Keep up the blogs. I enjoy them.

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  3. After thinking about this topic like a few of you….no sleepless nights, but what a fascinating topic! I found myself arguing with myself over what was a belief and what is ‘I know’. So here goes for me and what I know (or think I do).

    As it relates to Nature:
    1. Spring follows winter, summer follows spring, fall follows summer and winter comes again,
    2. Spring starts from the ground up. Grass greens up, then life unfolds up about 2-3 feet up and the last to unfold are the trees canopies providing shelter to all life underneath them. It always works this way as each level wakes up.
    3. The sun will continue to rise and set, and the moon and stars will continue to rise and set, following each other.
    4. Full moons cause strange behavior in people.
    5. There are predators and prey. Everyone and thing is one or the other.
    6. Every action has a reaction. Think of muscles – for every muscle in the body, there is an opposing muscle to balance. Nature works the same way.

    As it relates to People and Life:
    1. The human body is the most incredible organism and we have only begun to scratch the surface of understanding.
    2. Every person has a story that has shaped who they are. I don’t know all the stories and never will, but everyone has one.
    3. Every person can choose how to react to their story and lead their life. The choice is up to each person.
    4. We move through seasons and chapters of our lives individually. We pick up and lose others as we go along, but ultimately it is our life. Some have more seasons than others.
    5. Some decisions are more difficult than others.
    6. When inflated, balloons float up.
    7. We all die alone, even when others are around us.
    8. We are on this earth as we know it today, only once.

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    1. Thank you for such a thorough response! It is great to hear what readers “know”. Of all the things you listed the ones that resonated with me especially are #4 – I totally agree that, “Full moons cause strange behavior” and I vividly recall how busy we were, on nights of a full moon, when I worked in the Emergency Department many years ago. There were often more suicide attempts, motor vehicle accidents, more fights, stabbings & shootings, more accidents in general took place.

      Then in your next category, #s 1, 4 and 7: The more we learn about the human body the more we realize there is to learn. And, life does seem to be made up of seasons although I don’t think I had given that much thought, until now. I don’t know if this is what you had in mind, but I see spring for the young to procreate, summer for pleasure, fall as a time for reflection and then the final season of cold and rain, but with a few days of beautiful snowfall bringing peace and rest. I had never thought of our being alone when we die, but in a sense, it is true. No one can tell us how it is going to be, we are experiencing something for the first and the last time and no matter how many loved ones are nearby each person takes that last breath on their own and alone.


  4. Good things to point out, although the way the weather has been lately, who knows about the seasons.

    Another thing I yhoight of that I know for sure is that teachers can change a student for a lifetime.

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    1. Indeed they do and we should all remember to remind others of that point

      And if one is not a teacher, I know we can still all be a light in the corner where we live and provide hope and support to those around us with what we’ve learned.

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