Words Matter – III

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Does anyone remember Connie Chung? She was one of the first female TV news anchors and worked for essentially all broadcast networks and several cable channels at one time or another. She was quite good at her job, perhaps too good since she was terminated for her tenacious interview tactics. One thing I remember very clearly is that she was sometimes referred to as an “anchorette.” Do you remember that? If not, please don’t think the term has gone away over the past few decades. It has not. As proof, I recently saw an article entitled “Television Business News – Hot Anchorette Wars . . . .” There is a lot here that merits discussion, but I’ll stick to the topic at hand.

Over the past twenty or so years I attended numerous high school dance competitions. The teams, made up almost exclusively of female students, had names including Champettes, Tigerettes and Spiralettes, silly names using the suffix “ette,” the diminutive form of the whole. Just as we unconsciously refer to female babies as “little” girls, it generally goes unnoticed that girls’ sports teams are considered “less than” from day one. You may say this is not important precisely because it goes unnoticed, but I disagree. It is the very insidious nature of some words that makes them detrimental.

Think of the multitude of words that are altered to indicate “less than,” such as kitchenette, dinette, towelette and the meaning is clear, they are not the whole, not the real deal. When applied to a person, usherette, bachelorette, suffragette, why would that person not believe they are inferior to the original.

As petty as it may sound, I stated in an earlier post (Words Matter – I) there are words I do not like. It has taken nearly a lifetime for me to fully understand why. Here is a list of some of my least favorite words and terms and short explanations of why.

Problematic

Usage

Comment

“Girls” for women of all ages Substitute for “women” Woman is not a dirty word!
Lady Substitute for “woman” See above!
Maid/Matron of Honor Wedding attendant No male attendant equivalent
Maiden name Name before marriage I use “birth name”; in time may not be an issue
Miss/Mrs. Marital status Mr. for all men regardless of marital status
Whore/slut/bimbo/ho Sexual promiscuity Why not male equivalents?

I believe that some words, disguised as harmless, are actually demeaning. Are there words you especially like or dislike? Words you would like to change? Please share your thoughts and opinions with us here in the comment section.

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6 thoughts on “Words Matter – III

  1. I just never thought about it.
    That women have all these degrading names.
    A man just plain Mr. or no equivalent.
    Just a fact of life, I guess !

    Years ago it was Old Maid for a woman, bachelor for a man.
    How do you like those apples !

    I can’t think of anyone who would like to be called widow or widower!

    Yes, I remember Connie, I liked her…
    I didn’t know she got terminated ..

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  2. I agree with “girls.” Sports announcers use this often.
    Also I don’t like it when a man who is in a professional capacity (tow truck driver, car salesman, etc. ) calls me Sweetheart.
    Your examples are great.

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